Tough Love

Tonight I had to make a decision that was very hard. My granddaughter that is diagnosed with RAD, ODD, ADHD and PTSD also a sleep disorder and uses a CPAP machine. She was raging for over an hour about not wanting to do her home work. She started hitting my husband, her "daddy" (grandpa) and her raging. I just couldn't stand it anymore. I called the crises number and the girl there took all my information. She advised me to call 911 and tell them I needed an CIA patrol officer to come to the house and speak to my granddaughter. She said that the CIA stands for crises intervention policeman. These people are trained to talk to the children that are having a problem. If they can't get the child under control, then they can take the child in their patrol car to the crises center and the parents could follow in their car to the crises center here in town. Well, two CIA patrol offices came to the house about 20 minutes after I called 911. They both had full police uniforms on, to include guns and hand cuffs. He ask me what exactly was going on and I told him that Austin was raging so bad due to she didn't want to do her homework. She has a sleep disorder and her doctor has put her on some strong medication and one of the side effects is it makes you sort of "drunk" in the mornings and you don't want to wake up. Well these medications are never tested on young children, most of them that is. They have to guess what dose to give a child, and especially if a child is on other medications. Austin takes medication in the morning before she gets on the bus, or should I say it's bout 8:00 AM she gets it for her ADHD. At school the nurse gives her another pill for her ADHD, then by the time she gets home on the school bus it is already 5:00 P.M. The doctor told us to give her one of the sleep medications that is long acting at that time, 5:00 P.M. At 7:30 P.M. she is to take her other mediations, which is about 4 more pills, three different kinds of medication. She has trouble falling asleep and then staying asleep. She wants to wake up, play or eat. If you don't give in to her, she wakes the entire house up and Craig must go to work in the morning. Craig is my husband, grandpa (Daddy) to our darling granddaughter (Daughter), Austin. She wants sweet stuff mostly, and I tell her no, but that is when she rages and it's better sometimes to just give in, just to get some peace and quite for a change. But tonight, I was not going to tolerate her screaming, name calling, threats, such as she was going to call 911 also and have the "cops" come out and arrest me and Craig, take us to jail she said. Should I say she was screaming "take you both to jail". She told me I hated her, which I told her I do not, never in my life would I ever hate her, but I did not like the way she was acting either. After the policeman talked to her about 20 minutes, she calmed down a whole lot, as she was screaming when they rang the door bell, "Mommy I'll do anything, please don't let them take me". I was glad the guys that came talked to her and told her that she shouldn't act the way she does. If they had to, they would take her in the police car, in the back seat where all the bad guys spit on the seats, wipe mud and everything else. He said he' d be the one taking her in his patrol car, not me taking her in my car. I could follow them to the crises unit. So she was calmed down after talking with them and the CIA policeman had a hard piece of candy in his pocket and he then asked Austin if she were going to settle down when they left. What was she going to act like and eerything. She ran up to me, hugged me said she was sorry when the Policeman was there. She told them that she wasn't going to act that way anymore. So I hope this was enough to sort of put a scare into her. She did act better when they left, also she went to sleep about 8:30 P.M. So say a nice prayer that she will sleep all night in her bed. Normally I sit up all night rocking her to sleep. I will let you all know the saga ends and she has go make choicds now and be good in school, do her work and leave the other kids alone. We'll see how this does over the next few days and pray that she too will seak comfort for her outburst. I just can't take this anymore. God Bless each and everyone of you for your thoughts and continue to pray for Austin, as she is getting too big for her "britches" as my mother would say to us kids.
God Bless you all for your prays and thoughts,
Mollie

Will You Give? - Haiti and the Children

My heart is going out to the little children of Haiti. Yes, I grieve for all the people there, but the amount of children who are left without parents, relatives to take care of them. I want so much to cry, but that won't help them at all. What do they need you ask? Prayers first of all, but money is the next best thing that would help Haiti most of all. Even if you just have a small amount of change, that alone will feed so many people. The organizations that feed countries who are needing help, such as Haiti does now, can purchase food at a cheaper price than we could ever try to send individual items to people. One thing is these organizations are set up to do just that very thing in a disaster. If you can, donate to your American Red Cross, mark it for Haiti, or your local church donation, marked for Haiti. You need to donate to a well established organization, not someone or place you've never heard of before. You never know during a disaster who maybe trying to set up organizations that don't care about helping at all. They basically are there to rip people off and take advantage of the situation. Please donate to one of the more recognized organizations, such as the American Red Cross, or your local church. You know exactly where this money will go, and who it's going to help. Many people have gone over to Haiti to help in searching for people. It's getting to a time that even though we don't want to think about it as a "recovery mission", that is where it's heading. It's getting where the days are clicking by so fast, that there is hardly anyway it is possible for anyone to be alive after all the time that has passed. I'm not saying it isn't possible, as there was one man just found alive after being buried for 11 days. He was very lucky, and blessed. He was in a place where there was food, drink and he was able to stay nourished. I don't think he had a great time, however. Just think, to be buried alive, in a rubble of stone, bricks, dirt, and not really knowing if anyone would hear you yelling "Hey, I'm alive in here"!. He was very lucky that after 11 days he was found and could live through it to tell. Not everyone was so lucky. We need to pray for the people now that are still alive and send the kind of help they need. We must pray for the children left without anyone to raise them, or total strangers taking them in for the time being. Waiting to see if they have any relatives could take them in to raise them. I'm sure that our hearts and purses are going to be open for a while, but we must know that these children will need help probably for the rest of their lives. It took away everything they knew, the only place and things that they called "home". Pray that they know GOD will always be there for them. HE will feel their pains, HE will listen to them when no one else will or can listen anymore. HE will provide! Hopefully we can help with not only prayers at this time, but with what ever we can afford to give so that these survivors can have a future too. Will You Give?