Tough Love

Tonight I had to make a decision that was very hard. My granddaughter that is diagnosed with RAD, ODD, ADHD and PTSD also a sleep disorder and uses a CPAP machine. She was raging for over an hour about not wanting to do her home work. She started hitting my husband, her "daddy" (grandpa) and her raging. I just couldn't stand it anymore. I called the crises number and the girl there took all my information. She advised me to call 911 and tell them I needed an CIA patrol officer to come to the house and speak to my granddaughter. She said that the CIA stands for crises intervention policeman. These people are trained to talk to the children that are having a problem. If they can't get the child under control, then they can take the child in their patrol car to the crises center and the parents could follow in their car to the crises center here in town. Well, two CIA patrol offices came to the house about 20 minutes after I called 911. They both had full police uniforms on, to include guns and hand cuffs. He ask me what exactly was going on and I told him that Austin was raging so bad due to she didn't want to do her homework. She has a sleep disorder and her doctor has put her on some strong medication and one of the side effects is it makes you sort of "drunk" in the mornings and you don't want to wake up. Well these medications are never tested on young children, most of them that is. They have to guess what dose to give a child, and especially if a child is on other medications. Austin takes medication in the morning before she gets on the bus, or should I say it's bout 8:00 AM she gets it for her ADHD. At school the nurse gives her another pill for her ADHD, then by the time she gets home on the school bus it is already 5:00 P.M. The doctor told us to give her one of the sleep medications that is long acting at that time, 5:00 P.M. At 7:30 P.M. she is to take her other mediations, which is about 4 more pills, three different kinds of medication. She has trouble falling asleep and then staying asleep. She wants to wake up, play or eat. If you don't give in to her, she wakes the entire house up and Craig must go to work in the morning. Craig is my husband, grandpa (Daddy) to our darling granddaughter (Daughter), Austin. She wants sweet stuff mostly, and I tell her no, but that is when she rages and it's better sometimes to just give in, just to get some peace and quite for a change. But tonight, I was not going to tolerate her screaming, name calling, threats, such as she was going to call 911 also and have the "cops" come out and arrest me and Craig, take us to jail she said. Should I say she was screaming "take you both to jail". She told me I hated her, which I told her I do not, never in my life would I ever hate her, but I did not like the way she was acting either. After the policeman talked to her about 20 minutes, she calmed down a whole lot, as she was screaming when they rang the door bell, "Mommy I'll do anything, please don't let them take me". I was glad the guys that came talked to her and told her that she shouldn't act the way she does. If they had to, they would take her in the police car, in the back seat where all the bad guys spit on the seats, wipe mud and everything else. He said he' d be the one taking her in his patrol car, not me taking her in my car. I could follow them to the crises unit. So she was calmed down after talking with them and the CIA policeman had a hard piece of candy in his pocket and he then asked Austin if she were going to settle down when they left. What was she going to act like and eerything. She ran up to me, hugged me said she was sorry when the Policeman was there. She told them that she wasn't going to act that way anymore. So I hope this was enough to sort of put a scare into her. She did act better when they left, also she went to sleep about 8:30 P.M. So say a nice prayer that she will sleep all night in her bed. Normally I sit up all night rocking her to sleep. I will let you all know the saga ends and she has go make choicds now and be good in school, do her work and leave the other kids alone. We'll see how this does over the next few days and pray that she too will seak comfort for her outburst. I just can't take this anymore. God Bless each and everyone of you for your thoughts and continue to pray for Austin, as she is getting too big for her "britches" as my mother would say to us kids.
God Bless you all for your prays and thoughts,
Mollie